Julie's Journal

Jane and Bill arrived Monday, 2/4/08, to spend a few days with us. We had a fun time with them and the weather was just gorgeous. We didn’t need sweaters and could wear shorts most of the time. Monday night we just visited and caught up and I fixed chicken corn chowder and corn bread and kumquat pie.

Tuesday, we went to Plant City to see the strawberries and to Parksdale. Parksdale is a big fruit and vegetable and plant stand where they also serve lunch and all sorts of strawberry desserts. It’s too early for the Strawberry Festival, but they still had plenty of big, beautiful strawberries. Carol went with us. We came back to the condo and had lunch, then went to Lake Mirror and Florida Southern to see the 36 beautiful bronze statues by J. Seward Johnson. They are life size and you almost have to touch them to see that they are not real.

Ash Wednesday, we started out by going to Mass at 7:30 a.m., then Dan and Bill played golf, while Jane and I went to Bok Tower. At Bok, we had a guided walking tour of the gardens, listened to the beautiful carillon concert, visited the gift shop where I bought a “Crown of Thorns” plant, and had lunch at the Carillon Cafe.

Thursday, we went to Tarpon Springs. We did not go the best way or come home the best way, but had a great time while we were there. It is a Greek town with lots of tourist shops and boats on the docks. We had lunch at Mykonos restaurant and it was delish! Lastly, we took the city trolley on a tour around the whole town. The driver was like a tour guide. We wished we had done the trolley tour first because we would have visited some of the sites he pointed out that are open to the public. We recommend a day at Tarpon Springs. Carol and Bob invited us over for dinner on the way home, and we stopped there for cocktails and dinner. They enjoyed seeing Bob (haven’t seen him since their wedding) and the boys. We even all got to meet Krista while we were there (Eric’s girlfriend).

They left Friday morning. It rained. First time all week.

Sometimes the harder we try, the harder we are hit with disappointments. I had high hopes coming to Florida for 2 months this year, and decided to offer a beginner’s calligraphy class for 6 weeks. It was suppose to be at the Kelly Recreation Center here in Lakeland. Well, the class did not make I am sorry to say. I’m mainly sorry because I love the art and want to share my knowledge of it, but also I worked many hours to prepare and brought tons of supplies and ordered a box full for student’s to use. It was suppose to start today. That was the first disappointment.

The second disappointment was that I contacted the Lakeland Library way back in September or October and offered to do a free demonstration in honor of National Handwriting Day (January 23rd – John Hancock’s birthday). When I met with the person in charge of programs after I arrived here, I was very impressed with her ideas and organizational skills. She wanted me to write a press release, bring any of my work to display at the library, design a flyer for her to duplicate and spread around, and prepare a talk about the history of lettering. I, of course, complied with her requests and that accounted for several hours and trips. Carol had 3 of my pieces framed in her house, so she let me take those to the library.

Bottom line – when I went yesterday to do the demonstration, I discovered that she had never displayed my work, never duplicated the flyer, never notified the newspaper, and after I arrived, she had somebody make a sign to put at the front door. The room for the demonstration was separate of the library. It took me about 30 minutes to set up. She invited those in the library (over the intercom) about 15 minutes before it was to start. Well, only four people came. I had prepared 50 bookmarks to letter for children and used very few. None of the four were children.

I’m not inviting anyone to my pity party. I have so much to be thankful for. Dad went with me and is so supportive of all of my “crazy” ideas. We went out to dinner afterwards and he still thinks I am the most wonderful person in the world. How nice is that? AND, I am going to get to usher (with Patsy the Baptist) at the Gaither Concert in Tampa tomorrow night. Yea!

Carol came down and we left here about 8:35 to go to Tallahassee. It’s 300 miles. We went to Gail’s house and changed clothes and then went to the cemetery. The service was at 3 p.m. and we got there about 2:35. Surprisingly to me, there were programs – with the Our Father on the left side and “In Loving Memory of Marie Lucille Howard Tener, date of birth, date of death, time and place of service, then Presiding Julie Cashin”. Well I didn’t know I was the presider, but it worked out o.k. I had my talk all ready and it was to last about 7 minutes. Dad had a scripture reading and reflection ready and his lasted about 3 or 4 minutes, and I found out after I got there that Diane (Marie’s niece) was going to read a poem at the end. Dad was also one of 6 pall bearers. Carol sat with Bob’s brother’s daughter and her husband from Ocala.

So, being the presider, I decided that I needed to welcome everybody and to introduce Dad. Gail wasn’t up to saying anything or coming to the podium so I knew it would have to be me. Gail also was not going over the grave for the interment, so the funeral director decided since Gail wasn’t going, nobody should have to go. So they didn’t.

The pall bearers came in and sat on the side, then I welcomed everyone and explained who I was (since it was printed in the program), and introduced Dad. He did a really nice job with the scripture reading, spoke clearly and slowly and then added some humor to his reflection which began when Bob and Marie moved next door while we were at church and when we came home Bob was getting water out of our faucet because they had not turned on their water, yet (whoever “they” were). He said Bob was very calm and just doing what he had to do, but Marie was mad as a wet hen. But, he went on to say that was what bonded Marie and me because I sympathized with her. He said that Marie was thoughtful, generous, and caring and she couldn’t understand why “they” weren’t the same way.

After Dad finished, I went back to the podium (thank goodness there was a microphone) and mostly read my speech, but ad libbed a bit. Carol and Dad said I did a good job and Gail said that it was more than perfect, so I am pleased. I should have introduced Diane, but I didn’t. I sat down and Diane came up and read her poem about the love of gardening and it was a very beautiful poem as a tribute to Marie. That didn’t last long, though. Then the funeral director came up to the front and asked the pall bearers to help with the coffin (which was in the front with a beautiful spray of flowers on it). Two of the funeral hall workers actually rolled the coffin out the doors and the pall bearers lifted it into the hearse. Then the director invited everyone to a reception in another room. So the whole service was about 20 minutes long! The funeral director said he would like to hire us to do services because some of them last so long.

There was plenty of food at the reception. That was good since Dad, Carol and I had not eaten lunch. There were ham and biscuits, fruit, vegetable and cheese trays, nuts and chips and chex mix, a ton of desserts, iced tea and coffee.

We left about 4:00 to head back to Lakeland. We stopped twice for gas (because the first place was so expensive so Dad just put $20 worth in), then at Cracker Barrel in Lake Wales to eat. Got back here to the condo at 9:30 p.m. It was a long day, but I’m so glad we went. I’m also thankful that Carol went with us. It’s always nice to visit with each of our children and this gave us plenty of visiting time together. Plus she drove almost all the way home and some of the way up there. She was a great support!

I read a poem at the beginning of my talk and one at the end. The first one was about Friendship and the last one was about the beauty that is left behind (that hangs in our hall bathroom at home). You know, when you put some thought and yourself into something, the one who benefits is YOU. I felt very close to Marie and enjoyed all of my memories while preparing the talk.

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Jeb hosted Father’s Day for the Cashin guys on Sunday. Danny was there (until he went to work as manager at the pool), and Jami, Grant, Fiona and Michael, Ted and Susan, and Grandaddy and Gramalie. We had a nice dinner. Jeb cooked hamburgers and chicken on his new grill. Fiona, Michael and Gramalie played in Jeb’s new hammock (new Father’s Day present).

The 4 “children” gave Dan a wonderful new lawn mower for Father’s Day. Thanks to Grant for picking it out and bringing it to the party.

After dinner, Jami, Julie, Fiona and Michael went to the pool. While gone, Kathy, Claire and Kelly returned home from Helen, GA where they visited with Kathy’s dad.

Thanks, Jeb, for hosting!

David graduated from Resurrection 8th grade last night at a really beautiful Mass and celebration of the graduates. The young adults were so grown up and poised and the service well orchestrated. David looked very handsome in his cap and gown. Both sets of grandparents were in attendance. Andrew also went, but Eric was working so he had to miss it.

The seventh grade parents put on a wonderful reception following the ceremony with enough food for an army. We did not stay long, though, because Carol and Bob had all of us back to their house for Bob’s famous chicken fahittas. We played many games of pool, but the best one was when Pat and I beat Patsy and Bob, Sr. Neither Pat nor I know how to play pool, so we were quite pleased, and of course, it was a quirk. However, I sunk the 8 ball. How about that?

David entertained us on his electric guitar and he is getting quite good at it. He’s taking lessons from Brice once a week and works hard in between. He’s going to be a rock star, for sure. Look out, Nicole!

Picture will be has been posted by the web site manager because after all of his instructions, I still don’t know how to do it!

Carol came up Friday to spend a few days. She rode up with Jill, a neighbor who was coming to a family reunion. Ted came over for dinner and Jeb came over after his plane landed at 7:40 p.m. (from San Antonio). We enjoyed having 2 of our boys and our darlin dorter – lots of laughs and fun being together.

Saturday, Ted, Carol & I went to the tile store to pick out tile for the hall bath. Then Carol, Grandaddy, and I went to Athens to see Fiona in her dance recital. We had such a good visit with Grant, Jami, Fiona and Michael. Fiona was precious in her recital. Here are some pictures:

Jill called Saturday and said she needed to get back to Lakeland on Sunday, so they left a day early. Sunday morning, Carol, Grandaddy and I went to Mass and it was a wonderfully, joyful Mass. The music, the presider (Father Bede) and his homily were all very special. Carol left to go pick up Jill and her son, Sam, after that. They got home to Lakeland at 8 p.m.