Bees and Flies

Yesterday, Jeb and the girls were over here and we were talking about Dad going to the doctor. Jeb said that I should go with him because I would think of questions to ask that Dad would not think of. I agreed, but I told him he needed to tell Dad that because he never likes me to go with him. So, Jeb did tell Dad and this is the way he thought it would convince him:

“Dad, you should let mom go with you to the doctor because she is scattered and you have lateral vision. Dad, you are smart like a bee. You can put a bee in a jar and he will just keep butting his head against the side of the jar because he just sees the light out there and thinks he can get to it. But, a FLY, not the same. A fly is stupid and she just buzzes all over inside the jar until she finds a way out. So, the bee eventually dies, but the fly lives on.”

Now, I ask you blog readers, who is stupid? The bee or the fly? And, also, what do you do with a son who chooses to convince his dad by making his mom “stupid”?

Edward’s & Mary Ann’s visit

Edward & Mary Ann arrived last Thrusday and left early Sunday morning. We were all prepared to show them Lakeland, but Edward just wanted to play golf, so he and Dan played Friday and Saturday. After I played tennis with all of the guys Friday morning, Mary Ann & I went touring. We toured Florida Southern campus located on Lake Hollingsworth downtown, where there is the largest collection of Frank Lloyd Wright’s architectural designs – 12 buildings in all. Interesting uses of light and stone. Then, we went to Lake Mirror and walked through Hollis Gardens and all the around the lake (not even a mile). On the other side of the lake was an interesting building that we found out was Amtrak – the train station. We went over and up to the check in area and found that there are trains going all over the place from Lakeland. MA & Edward think they will ride the train down next January.

I took her to see Lake Morton and it is the one nicknamed “Swan Lake” because there are a jillion swans of all colors there. We ate at a sub place downtown and took lots of side streets. Mary Ann was totally impressed with how beautiful Lakeland is.

Friday night we had Patsy, Bob, Carol, David & Andrew down for cocktails then we all went to an Italian restaurant at the Lakeland Airport afterwards.

Saturday, Mary Ann, Carol, Patsy and I went to Dade City for the famous Cumquat Festival. It was really fun. That will probably be an annual outing for us. There were many craft artists, all sorts of food and we all even were given a bag of tangerines.

Bob and Carol invited us to go to a Wine Tasting Saturday night at Tim’s Wine Shop. It was a private party just for Bob & Carol and there were a total of 13 of us. We had seven different Sharaz Wines from around the world, very generous servings, plus a complete delicious dinner of salmon, pork tenderloin, marrinaded broccoli, great potatoes, all sorts of beautiful cheeses and fruits and bread. That was an event we’ll always remember. We enjoyed meeting some of their friends who we did not previously know, and to get to be with Jill & Tom again.

Mary Ann and Edward have made reservations in Mulberry for next January.

January 16th, 2006

This was sort of an eventful day, so I thought I’d put all of the stuff that happened on the blog.

1. Today is Jeb’s and Kathy’s 19th wedding anniversary.

2. Fiona had her adenoids removed this morning. She had to be put to sleep and they rode her in a red wagon to the operating room. She has eaten popsicles ever since and did just fine.

3. Michael is better. He had a very serious issue breathing Saturday night and Jami called the doctor and she had to sit upright in a chair all night and hold him and not let him lie down.

4. I played tennis with 7 men this morning. I rode my bike there and back.

5. Carol and David came down to Mulberry and walked a couple of miles with me and Dad. The kids are out of school today because it is

6. Martin Luther King’s birthday.

7. Dad, Carol and I attended the Parish Mission at St. John Neumann tonight. Fr. Carey from Portland, Oregon is giving the mission.

8. Debbie, Larry and the 3 older kids are on their way back from North Carolina where they got to play in snow and passed through Atlanta today. Debbie will meet Patsy tomorrow to pick up Noah (at Wildwood).

9. Laurie & Johnny made an offer on a huge house (4,900 square feet) and it was accepted this afternoon. They’ll close on April 3rd.

10. My friend, Anne Baron, had her first radiation treatment this morning at 9:00 a.m.

11. Dad’s friend, Betty Sweeney’s, son, Dan had a heart attack and has to have quadruple by-pass surgery either Tuesday or Wednesday.

12. Joe and Sandy are spending the night at our house tonight (in Atlanta) on the way to Pensacola to see Margie.

Patsy’s birthday

Laurie, Patsy, Carol and I went to Sweet Tomatoes for lunch for Patsy’s birthday today and to Ole Time Pottery and some other stores. We had so much fun. The funniest thing that happened was when Laurie (who is 30 something) climbed in the shopping basket at Ole Time Pottery and Patsy pushed her around the store. Carol tried on a fur vest at another store (Home Shopping outlet) that she wanted to buy because it’s suppose to go down to the 50’s on Friday, but it was too expensive and she decided against it. We had a lot of laughs and fun. Happy Birthday one more time, Auntie P.

Internet Phone Wizzard

Internet phone wizard is a hit!

A few weeks ago, ClarkHoward talked about a device called the “Internet Phone Wizard.” He said on air that he was going to try it out and see how it worked. It’s a tiny box that hooks up to your computer and telephone line. Then, if you’re subscribed to an Internet phone service such as Skype, you can talk to people on an actual phone for free. A lot of people don’t want to deal with Internet phone calling because you have to sit in front of a computer and wait for the call. But with the Phone Wizard it rings on your home phone, just like normal. What’s so stunning to Clark is that usually technology doesn’t work as it’s advertised. But the Phone Wizard works just like it says it will and it even improves call quality. If you make mostly domestic calls, it’s not worth it. But, if you have family or friends abroad, consider using it. It costs $50, but it will save you a ton in overseas calls.

In Anticipation of a Christmas Carol

An Uncle’s Christmas Prayer

To Jeb (when you’re a little older)

It is lucky for us that things are not always what they seem,

The world seems so big, and certainly you could never walk around it,

But really it is not as big as our minds

Because we can reach out with our thoughts to the farthest star without even trying

And quicker than a wink my thoughts can leave these beautiful snow mountains of Switzerland and fly across the ocean and go right through the door to where you are

Sitting on the floor with crumpled Christmas paper around you

And the tree brightly spreading happiness

And your Mother and Daddy smiling and smiling

As if they shared some great secret.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

I don’t mean just very nice, but full of wonder:

The suspense when you count: Just four more days till Christmas.

The surprise when you watch all the fancy decorations suddenly light up

The anxious-feeling when you try to guess what you will get and hope so hard that you won’t be forgotten

The slightly scared feeling when you’re tucked in bed

And you look out the window at the pale winter moon

And you strain to hear sleigh bells and reindeer’s hoofs.

I hope you have a beautiful Christmas.

I hope that everything outside and inside will be full of beauty,

And even the gentle gray rain can be beautiful.

And Christmas has its own special music so that it sounds beautiful

And it smells clean and fresh like fir and pine

And your presents are new and exciting

And everybody has an inside glow that makes them beautiful, too.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas,

Not just pretty, but full of love.

I hope your friends send you Christmas cards

Especially if they have to draw and color them themselves

And that your brothers and sisters will like you a lot

And even let you play with their toys,

And that you will save a piece of candy for somebody

Who doesn’t have as many people to love him as you do.

I hope you will have a good Christmas

That you are good to everybody and that everybody is good to you

That nothing happens to hurt your feelings,

That you will get good things you will want to take care of,

That you will like your Christmas dinner

Not only because your food is good, but because the family is together

And finally I hope that all your Christmases will be like this one –

Full of wonder and beauty and love and goodness.

May your wonder never leave you, but may it swell and search

Higher than the sky and deeper than the sea and beyond the far horizon.

May you look for what is beautiful and treasure it when you find it

In the glory of a golden sunset or a crisp night filled with stars.

The melody made by the sound of music or the murmur of a spoken rhyme.

If you look you will see beauty and if you love it you will have it always.

And when you see how happy others feel when they love you

May you too find happiness in loving others,

And may you learn that you enjoy a fine thing twice as much

When you share it with a friend.

May you find your pleasure in good things and in good people,

Expect to find the best in them and you will,

Feel sorry for the person who is bad because inside he is very sad,

And when you do acquire something deep down good may you hunger for something still better.

And so if you go through life, from one Christmas to the next

Searching for truth and beauty and love and goodness

It may take years, it may take all your life

But someday you will be surprised and very pleased

To find all that you have been seeking

Not in a manger two thousand years away

But, more wonderful, in the manger of your heart!

And then suddenly everything will make sense, and every day will be Christmas.

And what could be a nicer present than a new baby sister? (or even brother)

Seriously, I hope by now congratulations are in order and mine are most heartfelt.

Uncle) Ed

(1962)

AOL UPDATE

A curious thing happened to me this morning. I logged on on the laptop to Yahoo Mail and my computer announced a message that AOL had some updates for me and would I like to download them now. Since it was free and I know those people go to a lot of trouble to make things better for their customers, I clicked “yes”. It proceeded to download the updates. When it finished, it told me that I had to turn off my computer and restart, which I did. Well, I came back in to Yahoo via SpeedFactor and checked my emails, etc., then thought “I’ll just go check out what AOL changed for me.” I went to the AOL main page and it always comes up with my name “julcash1” and then I put in my password. Well, lo and behold, it came up “pgaries1” and I don’t have Phylllis’ password. I put in my password, and of course it told me that was invalid. Rather than call up Phyllis and ask her what her password was and since I didn’t really want to check her email, anyhow, I just signed in as a different user and it all worked out just fine. Now, what in the world? I don’t even have Phyllis in my AOL address book. However, she is in my Yahoo address book. But, then I have over 300 addresses in my Yahoo address book and many, many of them are AOL. Can any of you tech folks explain?

Mom

Lichfield by the Sea

Dad and I just returned from Lichfield. The Cartmills picked us up Monday morning at 8 am in their big, comfortable Lincoln and welcomed huge trunk. We stopped for breakfast in Conyers then arrived at the Bards in Lichfield about 4 pm. Gorgeous day in the 70’s. Nina and Bill are absolutely wonderful hosts. Nina had prepared lots of food at home, been to the grocery store and we only ate out one time. The meals she prepared were far better than the restaurant, though it was good, too. She fixed a great breakfast quiche with apples in it, sausage and cheese balls, chicken rotel casserole, shrimp alfredo (fresh huge shrimp and wonderful sauce), taco soup, and other delicious things. We didn’t eat all of this at one time, but spread it out over the 3 days.

Their condo is absolutely gorgeous and right on the beach. We expected it to be great, but it exceeded our expectations. The Cartmills went shopping to buy into one of these condos while we were there (does that sound familiar?). There are 11 families who purchased it and 2 of these families have 2 shares. The others get 4 weeks per year of use. They’ve owned condos together for the past 25 years. They bought this one in the last few years. I just wish you all could have been there to enjoy this. We rode bikes all through Lichfield by the Sea and it is some kind of beautiful. We played tennis twice. We walked the beach and hot tubbed several times. We played Mexican Train every day. Guess who won $5 the last night? Right. Me! That was the first time we had played for money. The very last hand, I used all 12 tiles the first time up and went out. That did them in! It was really funny. We should have taken a picture.

The only bad part was that Dad got sick on Wedesday and stayed in bed most of the day. He’s still not well, but he feels a whole lot better. Marshall was sick on Tuesday, but he got up Wednesday and was o.k. But, before Dad got sick, he rode bikes, beached and hot tubbed, so he had some fun. However, this morning he weighs what he weighed in college. I fixed him a big breakfast to fatten up his skinny body.

I’m gonna try to post a picture, but I have no pictures that could ever do justice to this place.

Lichfield.jpg

Mom

Report from Myrtle Library

I am at the library in Myrtle Beach using their computer to check email. We are having a wonderful time with the Bards and Cartmills and this place is gorgeous. The Bard’s condo is a real resort. We are on the 4th floor and overlook the ocean and the sunrise. It’s just perfectly beautiful. Temperatures up in the 70’s during the day. We’ve played tennis, walked the beach, played lots of Mexican Train, eaten a lot, laughed a lot. We are so lucky and blessed to have such good friends who want to share with us.

Love,

Mom

My new Good Quality Laptop

I bought a new laptop at Fry’s in August with the help of Ted and this is what he wrote to me in an email. I just am floored that he finds so much “stuff” to write about Fry’s. Does anybody out there know anything good about Fry’s?

Mom

Subject: Fry’s

Date: Fri, 26 Aug 2005 15:41:40 -0400

I tried to do some research on your notebook to see if they are

reliable or have tons of problems. GoodQuality computers are only sold by Fry’s. I

found this funny web site and we could see a lot of it while we there.

DISCLAIMER – This site is not operated by, sponsored by, or affiliated

with Fry’s Electronics in any way. The official Fry’s Electronics site

is www.frys.com All the opinions expressed are my own or in the case of

third party links of their respective authors.

Fry’s Electronics is a chain of electronics ‘superstores’ like no other. Unlike Best Buys or Circuit City, Fry’s targets a much more tech savvy group. Fry’s carries a wide range of appliances, audio/video equipment, computers, CDs, DVD’s and just about everything that a Best Buy would have. In addition they carry more specialized computer and electronic parts such as punchdown blocks, test equipment, and network equipment that one would normally only find on the web.

But a visit to Fry’s shows a reveals a gap between the intended audience and the people who shop there. Fry’s has an undeserved reputation for low prices. While it is true that some of their advertised specials are incredible deals, the day in and day out prices are nothing special. Many shoppers also incorrectly assume that since Fry’s carries so much computer equipment, both systems and components, that it is a good place to get advice. In fact the opposite is true. While a sales person at Best Buy may shrug his or her shoulders at a technical question, or

provide an answer like “let me read the box” a Fry’s Associate is more likely to make something up or intentionally lie. That is assuming you can find one.

Fry’s also has a very unique approach to customer service – they don’t have any. In fact I think it would be fair to say they go out of their way to provide customer dis-service. And for me, that is what makes a visit to Fry’s not just a trip to the store but rather like a great Olympic event. There are times that I experience the thrill of victory

(being able to purchase an advertised special without it being out of stock, not yet in stock, white labeled or returned stock, a 1+ hour checkout experience etc) or the agony of defeat.

My advice to friends and clients is not to go. But if you must, I hope the following rules of shopping at Fry’s will help you win more often then you lose.

Danny’s Rules for Shopping at Fry’s (this is not any of our Danny’s)

1) They run great sales items in the LA Times on Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Wednesday. The Wednesday prices are only good on that one day. the FrSaSu prices are good until the following Tuesday.

2) Not every item in the ad is a good price. And MOST prices in the store range from nothing special to high.

3) Each week they cycle through a part of a computer at an incredible price, like a motherboard and CPU for $59 but they will not have any good memory prices – you save $30 on the motherboard but then spend $40 too much if you buy the memory at the same time. If you want a great price, only buy what is on sale that day and wait to buy the other pieces.

4) Many great prices require mailing in a rebate. The rebates almost always have very short time limits and require a special register tape, the rebate form, and a part of the product package. If you buy something with a rebate be sure to send it in promptly and fill out everything EXACTLY as requested. Many rebates are limit one per household so be sure to use different households for multiples of the same item.

5) NEVER ask a Fry’s employee a technical question. If they do happen to speak the same language as you, they will probably make something up or just lie for the fun of it.

6) Always bring the newspaper ad with you or write down the item number from the ad. For example, Fry’s sells half a dozen different DVD Burners. Each week (usually) a different one is on sale for $39 or $49, a great price. But on the shelf they are all marked $59 – $99. You need to match the exact item number to find the one on sale. A very common ploy is to advertise an item for a very low price and when you get to the store there are boxes and boxes of the very same item by the same manufacturer – BEWARE if the number is not exactly the same you will end up at the register expecting to pay $9 and being charged $29. I have seen this happen where the ad is for the same item in different packaging.

7) Fry’s likes to hide stuff often in plain site. For example, they often sell 50 CDRs for $6 which is a really good price. But if you go to the CDR section you may not find them. Try looking in the most illogical place – like next to the printers.

8) If the ad says limited quantities and you want one then go as soon as possible. If not, and they are out of stock when you go then ask for a rain check. As soon as they are “off ad” lots of stock will magically appear.

9) Many sales items are limit one. If you want two you can sometimes get the checkout person to ring it up on a separate tape. But beware – do not use the same credit card or the Fry;s system will flag it and require a manager to OK the transaction. This one approval can take up to 45 minutes and almost certainly will cost you more in time and aggravation than the savings. It’s best to pay with CASH for a second item on limit one.

10) For large limit one items, like the GQ Computer bring a friend to check it out for you.

11) NEVER TRY TO USE A CHECK AT FRY’S. See the horror links below for stories from customers who dared to use a check

12) Do not rely on signs or posted prices above products. A display bin filled with no-name surge suppressors for $7.99 may have a sign above it for a brand name surge suppressor for $5.99. Their strategy is that by the time you get to the checkout you won’t go back for the 2 bucks.

13) Items that are $ 0 cost after rebate often have more then one of the above tricks – an item that is advertised as $14.99 less $15 rebate = FREE will be marked $19.99 while the same item by a different manufacturer will be labeled $14.99 but have no rebate. Always assume that the better the deal the more incentive Fry’s has to placing obstacles in your way. Always bring the item number from the ad and check it against the product label.

14) Don’t ask a Fry’s ascoiate in the computer department a question about memory. Memory must be purchased in the components department. You should also never rely on memory advice from most but not all of the associates in the compenents department. Always know exactly what kind of memory ( not brand but specification ) you need. I recomend visiting http://www.crucial.com for looking up memory. Laptop memory is much

more finicky than desktop.

Think of shopping at Fry’s like a competition. There can only be one winner of a Fry’s visit, you or them. Like any sport you need to be in both good physical and mental condition. If you would like to add some of your own rules to this list please email them to me here.

New Rules

Since I first wrote these rules, Fry’s has not stood still. They have continued to hone their techniques and so must you. Always keep your eyes on your shopping cart. It can be very tempting to park your cart at the end of an isle – Fry’s is usually very crowded and a cart can really slow you down. But beware of the Fry’s Cart Theft manouver. In the real world you would need to hold onto your cart after leaving a store – not at Fry’s. Here they want you to pack your cart with all the hard to find specials and just when you leave your cart to grab that final 99′ ream of copy paper before checkout you return to find your cart is gone. I don’t know if this is being done by a lazy Fry’s shopper letting me do all the heavy lifting or by Fry’s black ops personel under the direction of store survailence but either way it can be devastating.

Time permitting I will arrange a stakeout of a cart filled with specials and report on the results.

If you have read this entire text, you must have a lot of free time! Regardless of the above, I really like my new GQ laptop. I’ve applied for the rebate on the printer and am waiting for the check!

Julie (Mom)